Renew Breakup Bootcamp Heals Your Past. But What About Your Future?

“Among other attempts at self-healing, I have tried: casual sex, dating apps, uppers, downers, day drinking, and sobriety. I also tried somatic healing, boxing, Buddhist meditation, Ayahuasca and finally, because it was offered to me for free by a publicist, Botox. “A few pricks may ease your blues,” she wrote in an email last March. Well, I thought, at least I wouldn’t look so sad.”

That was a strong opening paragraph for this piece on a high-end break-up boot camp  in upstate New York – a getaway for women who can’t get over it.

I can see why it sounds appealing:

“A  multi-day program that includes sessions led by the top psychologists, behavioral scientists, coaches, energy healers and meditation teachers. All meals are cooked by an on-site chef using organic and local ingredients.

Each retreat has under 20 people so that we can keep an intimate atmosphere that feels safe, calm and supportive. You will meet others who are also going through the same feelings and stages of mourning and detaching, and a psychologist with a Ph.D. in behavior will lead sessions on how we can detach and let go of the past that no longer serves us. Renew’s Chief Heart Hacker will provide group talks on the psychology of our attractions and  how we can start rewiring our patterns to create healthy love. There will be yoga and meditation sessions, and a tantra expert will show you how to connect to your body and harness your feminine energy. A professional dominatrix with a Ph.D. in human development will lead sessions on power dynamics and sexuality. There will also be private, one-on-one sessions with either an energy healer or relationship coach available.”

Wow. It really does take a village.

Wow. It really does take a village.

Things like this sometimes make me second-guess myself. I don’t do energy healing. I would never call myself a Heart Hacker. I don’t think you necessarily  need  a tantra expert or dominatrix to get your  mojo back, although both sound titillating.

I guess that’s just what it means to be a man in a world consisting of mostly female coaches.

I have no objection to spirituality or woo-woo, but my clients come to me for practical, honest, reality-based advice

I have no objection to spirituality or woo-woo, but my clients come to me for practical, honest, reality-based advice on how to get over your past, embrace the present and make healthier long-term relationship choices.

The fact that we do it at the 4 Seasons over lawn parties, champagne breakfasts, and prix  fixe menus just makes my Love U Retreat a different kind of event – less energy healing and more exercises, deep dives, and fun than perhaps a Breakup Bootcamp.

There’s definite value to healing your past, but, frankly, I’m much more concerned about giving you steps to build a new future.

Click here to learn more about the Love U Retreat and get on a waitlist for the next time I host one.  

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