The Best Boyfriends Are a Bit Thirsty
- Communication, Relationship Studies, Relationships
The word of the day is “thirsty.”
Urban Dictionary defines thirsty as:
1. Too eager to get something (especially play)
2. Desperate
With that, let’s take a look at today’s article by one Josh Gondelman in Glamour.
“Making a romantic overture to someone often seems corny and awkward and sometimes even a little desperate. That’s because it is. But it’s also a gesture that takes both vulnerability and assertiveness, and those are good qualities, even when they result in rejection. (Obviously, no one is under any obligation to reciprocate anyone else’s thirst.)
No great love story has ever begun without a spark of thirst.”
Thirst is more accurately known as desire. And if there’s anything I’ve learned by listening to women over 15 years, it’s that you REALLY want to be desired.
Thirst is more accurately known as desire. And if there’s anything I’ve learned by listening to women over 15 years, it’s that you REALLY want to be desired.
But you really want to be desired exclusively by men YOU desire and NOT by men you don’t desire.
You go out with a guy on Friday. You have a great time. He calls you the next day to say he had a blast and can’t wait to see you again. You swoon.
You go out with a guy on Friday. You’re bored stiff. He calls you the next day to say he had a blast and can’t wait to see you again. You determine he’s a needy stalker.
Same behavior. Different reaction.
The guy you like is sweet and direct. The guy you don’t like is “thirsty.”
Concludes Gondelman, “I met my now-fiancée in person at a party she was throwing (I was invited! I promise I’m not a creep). I asked for her phone number (thirsty!), texted her the next day (extra thirsty!), and figured out a time we could see each other again two days after that (Fast and Thirstiest, starring Vin Diesel!). Now we live together and coparent a rescue pug and are planning a wedding.
Not every story has such a happy ending, of course. Thirst can go wrong. Unchecked thirst is smothering. Unchecked, unreciprocated thirst is stalking. But thirst, in its purest form, isn’t about entitlement or reckless desperation. It’s about knowing what you want. And it’s OK to want something or someone openly, without playing games.”
Amen to that. Your thoughts, below, are greatly appreciated.
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