Do You Have Unrealistic Expectations For Your Marriage?

This space has covered a lot of ground on passion vs. comfort.

I’m firmly in the camp that says passion is great, but there is no 40-year marriage based on passion. You NEED to have comfort.

So imagine my delight when I stumbled upon this article from a woman who has been married for 19 years and has redefined what is important to her over the course of time. At the beginning, it was exotic vacations and unrealistic expectations. Now, it’s something different, something far more meaningful. Says the author, Lisa Smith Molinari:

“We did not meet our original expectations, we’ve exceeded them. Back when we were dreaming of a life of romance uninhibited by responsibility, stress, and aging, we couldn’t fully comprehend the complexity and depth of the marital relationship.

What we didn’t understand then is that romance is more than candlelight dinners and adventurous travel. The foundation of long-term romance is really commitment, companionship and comfort.”

After all this time, do you still think that a lifetime relationship is based more on passion than on comfort?

And if so, where is the evidence for it?

Please read the original article here and share your thoughts below.