In this Love U Podcast episode, I dive into the concept of “dating up”—the idea that women should aim to date or marry someone with more wealth, power, or status. This episode was inspired by a thought-provoking conversation with a client who challenged me, claiming that women need to hear the cold, hard truth about their unrealistic dating expectations. If you’re a woman who’s tired of not finding men on your level, this episode is a must-listen.
5 Stages Men Go Through Before They’ll Commit
In this Love U Podcast, I share a tale of friend who had a hard time committing because of a lack of passion (despite the good sex) – because I felt some of those same feelings once upon a time. This leads into the five stages that men go through before they’ll commit. If you’re a woman who wants to know what men are really thinking when they’re dating you, this is an eye-opener.
A Man Who Loves You Will Never Do This
Every relationship that ever broke up started with some level of excitement. Those first few weeks and months of breathlessly getting to know each other, explore each other, and make giddy plans for the future. But, as you already know, the first months (and even years) bear little resemblance to marriage and have little predictive power. In other words, every eager guy is going to put on his best face when he’s interviewing for the job. What happens when he’s got the job and starts to take it for granted. In this episode, you’ll learn that your future partner will never stop doing this ONE thing: making an effort to please you.
5 Dating Boundaries You Need To Have With Men
Many smart, strong, successful women have trouble setting healthy boundaries with men. These powerful women give up their power to get along, to please, and find themselves emotionally dissatisfied within their relationships. In this Love U Podcast, I share a few anecdotes that correlate with 5 important boundaries you MUST set with men. None of them are revolutionary ideas; all of them are importance if you want to have a partner who hears and respects your wishes.
The No Contact Rule and Getting Your Ex Back
Is it a good idea to go “no contact” after a painful breakup where you still have feelings for him? Absolutely. Is it a good idea to use “no contact” as a means to make your ex miss you so he’ll take you back? Hell, no!
In this emergency Love U Podcast, I discover that there are some coaches who will tell you what you want to hear – regardless of whether the advice gets you results.
When Do You Talk About Your Needs?
There’s a temptation when you first start dating to tell a guy what you expect from him. After all, previous men have disappointed you, you’ve learned your lessons, and you want to set healthy boundaries and expectations. The issue is twofold: a) you can’t tell a man who is not your boyfriend how to act and b) you don’t always deliver the message in an effective way to get what you want.
In this episode, I break down the logic about when you should talk about your needs and how to know your requests are reasonable and well-received.
7 Green Flags in a Guy You’re Dating
There’s a lot of talk about red flags: separated guys, recently divorced guys, guys who never want to get married, guys who aren’t sure if they want kids, long distance guys, etc. These men are easy to spot and avoid. But how good are you at paying attention to GREEN flags – the traits and behavior you want to see in men? In this Love U Podcast, I run down 7 things to look for in a new partner if you want a chance at long-term compatibility.
Managing Your Attachment Style – an Interview with Thais Gibson of the Personal Development School
I haven’t interviewed anyone on my podcast since 2017 but when I got the opportunity to speak with Thais Gibson, creator of the Personal Development School, I leapt at the chance. She’s fiercely intelligent and listening to her go deeper on attachment styles and limerence was a treat.
Thais Gibson is a counselor, best selling author and co-founder of The Personal Development School. She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal family systems, to shadow work and hypnosis. Thais had nearly a decade of experience running a successful private practice and founded The Personal Development School, an online learning platform, to provide a more accessible, authentic way for clients to transform their lives. Thais is on a mission to empower individuals to overcome their insecure attachment styles and reprogram any limiting thoughts and behaviors, creating long-lasting and enlightening changes. She is the bestselling author of Learning Love, and she and her husband split their time between Austin, TX and Toronto, Canada.
Together, we discuss:
1. How anxious people can tell if it’s his behavior or their anxiety that’s triggering them.
2. The value of dating a secure person and how that feels different than anxious/avoidant pairings
3. Why attachment styles are malleable and change depending upon your circumstance and your partner.
4. The definition of limerence. Why does it take place? What are the symptoms?
5. Coping strategies to manage limerent feelings.
6. Whether you should walk away from a 10 chemistry or go towards it.
Find her at https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ and https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
Who’s Taking Care of You?
As an independent, successful, single woman, you’ve built a life about which you can be extremely proud.
There’s only one problem. You have to take care of everything yourself. The mortgage. The health insurance. The plans. The repairs. The vacations. You take care of your parents, you take care of your kids, you take care of your clients.
I just have one question for you: who’s taking care of YOU?
This special Love U Podcast episode explores the story of one woman who is finally ready to let a man take care of her.
Are You Subconsciously Avoiding Dating?
I once took a poll and discovered that 40% of my mailing list was not dating at all. These are women who had enough interest in the subject matter to reach out to me for dating advice, but, for their own reasons, chose not to use it. I feel for them. When all your past relationships have disappointed, it’s natural to feel afraid and paralyzed when it comes to dating. The problem is that you’ll never find love if you don’t date. In this Love U Podcast, I’m going to nudge you to stop letting fear win.
