There’s a lot of talk about red flags: separated guys, recently divorced guys, guys who never want to get married, guys who aren’t sure if they want kids, long distance guys, etc. These men are easy to spot and avoid. But how good are you at paying attention to GREEN flags – the traits and behavior you want to see in men? In this Love U Podcast, I run down 7 things to look for in a new partner if you want a chance at long-term compatibility.
Managing Your Attachment Style – an Interview with Thais Gibson of the Personal Development School
I haven’t interviewed anyone on my podcast since 2017 but when I got the opportunity to speak with Thais Gibson, creator of the Personal Development School, I leapt at the chance. She’s fiercely intelligent and listening to her go deeper on attachment styles and limerence was a treat.
Thais Gibson is a counselor, best selling author and co-founder of The Personal Development School. She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal family systems, to shadow work and hypnosis. Thais had nearly a decade of experience running a successful private practice and founded The Personal Development School, an online learning platform, to provide a more accessible, authentic way for clients to transform their lives. Thais is on a mission to empower individuals to overcome their insecure attachment styles and reprogram any limiting thoughts and behaviors, creating long-lasting and enlightening changes. She is the bestselling author of Learning Love, and she and her husband split their time between Austin, TX and Toronto, Canada.
Together, we discuss:
1. How anxious people can tell if it’s his behavior or their anxiety that’s triggering them.
2. The value of dating a secure person and how that feels different than anxious/avoidant pairings
3. Why attachment styles are malleable and change depending upon your circumstance and your partner.
4. The definition of limerence. Why does it take place? What are the symptoms?
5. Coping strategies to manage limerent feelings.
6. Whether you should walk away from a 10 chemistry or go towards it.
Find her at https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ and https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
Who’s Taking Care of You?
As an independent, successful, single woman, you’ve built a life about which you can be extremely proud.
There’s only one problem. You have to take care of everything yourself. The mortgage. The health insurance. The plans. The repairs. The vacations. You take care of your parents, you take care of your kids, you take care of your clients.
I just have one question for you: who’s taking care of YOU?
This special Love U Podcast episode explores the story of one woman who is finally ready to let a man take care of her.
Are You Subconsciously Avoiding Dating?
I once took a poll and discovered that 40% of my mailing list was not dating at all. These are women who had enough interest in the subject matter to reach out to me for dating advice, but, for their own reasons, chose not to use it. I feel for them. When all your past relationships have disappointed, it’s natural to feel afraid and paralyzed when it comes to dating. The problem is that you’ll never find love if you don’t date. In this Love U Podcast, I’m going to nudge you to stop letting fear win.
Should You Date Trump or Biden?
The first presidential debate of 2024 was revealing. We saw, quiet clearly, that the two candidates running for office were, in fact, incapable of being the leader of the free world.
How does this apply to dating and relationships, you might ask?
Well, the world is filled with Donald Trumps and Joe Bidens. One is selfish and untrustworthy. The other is a nice guy who is not capable of the job.
So, what should you do, as the CEO of your love life, when you run across men like these? Check out this Love U Podcast to hear my take.
6 Feminine Traits That Men Love
I agree: the masculine/feminine thing is a little overdone. And yet I still think there’s value in emphasizing that women tend to have certain traits that men lack and therefore, crave. In this Love U Podcast, I’ll run down six of the most important ones and share examples of how I get to experience them in my marriage. If you listen and think, “Hey, I do that!” then I predict you’ve got a bright relationship future ahead of you.
The One Question You Should Ask When Dating
My client Diana taught me a valuable lesson last week. After dating man with excellent long-term relationship potential, she wasn’t quite feeling it. Since she didn’t want to let a good catch go, she started to talk herself into why she should keep seeing him. Then she asked this ONE question that clarified EVERYTHING for her. In this quick Love U Podcast, I’ll share that one question so you can ask it yourself.
Have You Given Up On Online Dating?
Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Match… at a certain point, you’ve tried all the apps and you’re getting burned out. It’s so bad, you become convinced that the best way to find a partner is to stop dating online, lead your best life, and hope that you run into a quality, relationship-oriented single man. It may feel good to take a break from online dating; the problem is that “real-life” doesn’t provide many opportunities for dating.
In this episode, I acknowledge the flaws of online dating and remind you that you can still have a rich, full, flirty single life AND have a much better chance of finding love if you learn how to date online effectively.
The Relationship That Won’t Die
We all engage in wishful thinking, to some degree. Even when the evidence points to the answer being no, we find some sliver of hope that it can become a yes. Nowhere is this more evident than in dating. In this Love U Podcast, I share a story about my tortured “When Harry Met Sally” relationship that took up nearly two decades, and give you the courage to cut loose men who, despite your feelings, don’t make for healthy long-term partners.
5 Signs He’s Not That Serious About You
Online dating apps have done two things:
1. Given men and women infinite options at their fingertips.
2. Tortured those same men and women since so few of those options pan out.
In this Love U Podcast episode, I break down the five most prominent ways you can tell that your relationship isn’t going anywhere. Starting from the first date and going chronologically through the relationship, I outline the red flags that should cause you to cut bait and find a more enthusiastic man.
